“Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself.” - Coco Chanel
There is no clock ticking, no race to win, no finish line to cross.
We can all take a deep breath, a collective sigh.
There is no timeline on beauty.
How light would it feel, and how much more space in one's mind if we all came to the conclusion that there is no envelope of time when we are beautiful? There is no expiry date.
We are beautiful at every age, every stage. It's just all variations of beauty,
Not just one cookie cutter version.
What a relief to finally believe in your core, that in 5 years you will be beautiful, and in 10 and in 15.
It doesn't stop, but it certainly changes. The trick is to change our perspective of what is beauty.
No small feat, but I am up for the challenge.
If we were to widen the scope and be more inclusive, that would be a start.
And this is the change that is starting to happen, however, it's only effective if it is repeated and repeated until it is natural to look at one’s image without judgement of what we currently call a flaw.
“You define beauty for yourself, society doesn’t define your beauty." - Lady Gaga
It just takes a moment.
It can all change in an instant.
But you have to be present in that moment.
For me it started 15 years ago.
Jamie Lee Curtis posted a picture of her 47 year-old self.
She had no makeup, wore a pair of shorts and the caption was:
'This is what 47 looks like'
She showed what a REAL 47 looks like - softness and imperfection that I could finally exhale and feel a deep connection to.
It was not photoshopped and it was a game changer.
She was considered brave,
But it was really just being honest.
“The chain starts with one link.”
I like to think of it as reinventing yourself. What an opportunity!
With every day, month and year we move forward and accumulate knowledge, love, strength and hopefully clarity.
It shows up on our physical side like we get a chance to press the reset button.
You can not possibly expect to see your 20 year-old self in the mirror, nor would you want to.
When I started this journey,
I wanted to tell women in their 30s and 40s to not fear time.
The best is ahead.
It does get better with each day and year.
We need to focus on what you gain,
Clarity, strength, your voice, love of self.
You continue to gain with each day.
There is more to the story.
You don’t lose anything.
You don't lose your beauty.
It's just perception.
So clearly we have to change the perception of beauty. What if the grey hair, soft line and body changes became beautiful and it was a gift?
Then it’s a win win, and it really just gets better with everyday forward.
Nothing to fear.
Everything to gain.
Moving forward that is how I plan to imagine my life.
If we make little adjustments in our perception, it can take us to a new level of thinking.
There is no timeline on beauty.
Love and gratitude
Xo
Vita
I would love to step away from the idea that there is even a concept of time attached to what is beautiful. There is no time limit. We are beautiful at every stage of life. Period.
I was just thinking that way. What if lines on a face were read as if everyone had a beauty to it. I am so sick of the advertising industry that shows a 20-year-old getting rid of lines with some dumb skin cream. I want to see a more older woman being revered because of her beautiful lines.!!!